You’re Not the Boss of Me: Discover Your Authentic Self

You’re Not the Boss of Me is a self-help book intended to make the outside influences in your life come to light to allow for an easier shedding and cleansing so you can be the most genuine and unique version of yourself. When you begin to understand and gain clarity concerning people, places, and things that have been silently controlling you, starting the journey toward rediscovering yourself is that much easier and more successful.

Alma C. Lightbody has a wealth of information on the areas of holistic health and shamanic healing, with her last thirty years being focused on energy medicine. She has divided the book into four parts that focus on various areas of one’s life. The first part is about an individual’s belief systems, which include patterns, imprints, masks, and awareness that may be either subtle or obvious in a person’s life. The second part focuses on the human body and how it has a way of “speaking” to us and, if we are aware of what it is saying through its messages, we could forego unneeded pain and turmoil.

Part three focuses on “finding your way home” through acceptance, while part four includes tips and tricks for “being the choreographer of your life.” Each part is, to the outside, short and simple, but they all contain much information being taught to the reader as well as real-life experiences shared by the author. The end of the book contains pages for journal notes to record information that can be used at any time you choose.

Lightbody presents genuine care in her writing on a topic that is more important than many people realize. It is a common thing for people to allow their job, race, religion, relationship, etc. to dictate both how they feel, regard, and treat themselves as well as others around them. Lightbody organizes the material in a readable format, with the right amount of information provided in each part.

I got slightly confused when she would reference God but then also talk about chakras and other holistic terms; I found it hard to understand where she was coming from since the two categories don’t necessarily go together.

The rest of the book was easy to understand and, even if you don’t share the author’s views on holistic and shamanic healing, the rest of the information is usable in everyday life for any type of person. The book can be easily read in a day and the information can be recorded for many more days of learning and growing.